Need a date night flick, mama? Then Boyhood just might be your answer (that is, unless you have that whole don’t-talk-about-the-kids rule for the evening).

The film, directed by the very accomplished Richard Linklater (Dazed & Confused, Before Sunset, School of Rock), does what no film has done before. The entire cast—including the young boy Ellar Coltrane, Ethan Hawke as the boy’s father, and Patricia Arquette as his mother—were shot over a 12-year period, for 3-4 week chunks each year, with the script evolving along the way.

With such a drawn-out shooting schedule, the film shows the passage of time like no other, watching its characters age, and highlighting the central character Mason as he grows from a 6-year-old kid to an 18-year-old young man…in 165 minutes! (That alone can make a mother hold her little ones a bit tighter!)

While the film, which hit theaters July 11th, is said to have no clear plot, its the details in the sometimes mundane, everyday life moments (young boys riding bikes, finding a lingerie catalog, fighting with parents, and kissing girls) that fascinate when compressed into such a short amount of time on film.

We suggest watching the trailer below, checking your local theater listings, and be sure to book a nice dinner after the movie to discuss the flick—and, at the very least, Linklater’s groundbreaking cinematic feat—over good food and booze. Who knows, it might even have you looking at the person across the table a little differently.