Temi: "Together for 8 years, married for 3."

Temi wears an Altuzarra for Target dress, United Nude heels, and Goorin Brothers hat. Rayo wears a Baby Gap shirt, H&M jeans, and See Kai Run sneakers. Tobi wears a shirt of his own design, Uniqlo jeans, and Kim Jones sneakers.

Temi: "We’re both very independent people and having Rayo pools our energy together. He’s our most important common goal. After an easy pregnancy, I had a challenging delivery and postpartum recovery. Tobi really stepped up in a phenomenal way."

Tobi: "We have a deeper connection."

Temi: "There’s less time and energy at the end of the day, so it does require more mindfulness and more effort to invest in us."

Tobi: "See above."

Temi: "I have less free time, so I have to be much more efficient with how I use my time. Figuring out the adjustment was tricky, but the good thing is I feel I’m more efficient with time now. I still enjoy the same things I did before I became a mother, so I’ve adapted how I do those things. I love reading, so it was an unexpected joy to discover I could still get through a book every week or two while nursing...if I read books on my iPhone."

Tobi: "I don’t honestly think life has changed. It was never just one constant thing and it never will be just one unchanging thing—it’s an evolving process. Now, we just have a new member to make it a threesome and that comes with everything that having a young child comes with, and the sides."

Temi: "The love. The transformative, all encompassing love."

Tobi: "I knew I’d enjoy it, but it’s been ten times what I expected."

Temi: "Make the time. How you choose to spend that time is different for everyone, but we enjoy sitting down for a proper dinner, then watching a film every weekend on our projector (it elevates movie nights at home to a whole new level). Try and get out from time to time and enjoy some things as a couple. I like to dress up when we do go out at night, I did before having a baby and I feel so much more sparkly when I do. Keep it casual if that’s more your speed, whatever makes you feel your best. I’d also say try to remember to acknowledge when the other person makes an effort, whether Tobi takes out the rubbish or anything else, I always try to remember to let him know his efforts are appreciated."

Tobi: "We’re still trying to figure it out, but the first step is being aware and making an effort. Also take advantage of low hanging fruit, such as when he goes to bed, sit down and make/have dinner together with no devices."

Temi: "Watching Rayo’s personality unfold a little bit more day by day. Seeing what is innate to him (his happy dance), what he inherits from us, and what he learns from us."

Tobi: "All of us growing up together."

Temi: "Failing him. It’s important to me that I set a good example as a parent, a wife, a mother, and a woman, so he can carry that through life."

Tobi: "The twists and turns life has in store for all of us. They can be hard. And you can’t plan for that."

Temi: "Plan what you can and prepare for what you can’t."

Tobi: "I’m not qualified to answer, but…do as much as you can to get you as relaxed and confident as possible. If that means taking classes for three years and reading 20 books before the baby arrives, do it. If it means figuring it out as you go along, you’ll be fine. Even after all that or nothing, you’ll probably still be nervous, everyone is."

Temi: "He’s such a blessing in so many ways, I’m just happy he chose us as parents."

Tobi: "Sharing the experience with Temi and watching him grow."

Temi: "He generally wakes up around 7, so a relaxed breakfast at home then heading out for a morning adventure. This could be a trip to Mount Tam for a hike, a museum, or anything else that’s on our radar. Rayo loves being out, so we spend as much time outdoors with him as possible. One of the delights of living in San Francisco is there is so much to do in the city and beyond the city borders. Then we would stop off for a big lunch somewhere with outdoor seating (Rayo doesn’t sound quite as loud outdoors), then head home for a nap. While Rayo naps, Tobi and I would have a drink and catch up. When he’s up, we’d walk to a nearby playground for a runaround and to play on the slides then home for an early dinner. Once we get home, a story or two, then we’d pop him in the bath and then bedtime."

Temi: "He’s such a happy, easygoing child. His smile, his laugh, and his happy dance."

Tobi: "He knows what’s going on. I like watching him do something that I didn’t think he could do or something I thought he didn’t remember. We recently got back from a trip and he spent the first hour back home going to his usual spots to make sure everything was where he left it. Open the fridge—check. Drawer under the oven with the baking tray—check. Remove paper from the printer—check. Pull shoes out the closet—check. Take clothes out of mom’s dresser drawers—check. Get wooden car he hid in the flower pot—check. The ruler’s back."

Temi: "We knew we wanted a Yoruba (Nigerian dialect) name to honor our roots. My mum gave us a dictionary of Yoruba names as a wedding gift, so when I was pregnant, I read that tome cover to cover and we put together a shortlist. We didn’t know if we were having a boy or a girl and Rayo happened to be the only boy name that we both liked. It means joy which is just about perfect for our little boy."

Temi: "I can only speak about S.F. and I haven’t been a parent in London, but I do feel things in London seem a little more relaxed. Here there seems to be a ‘culture’ of parenting and a lot more pressure and expectation as to what type of parent you want to be or are expected to be. Whereas, as far as I can see in London, you keep being you, just with kids. I’m not aware of the discussion about parenting style etc. to the same degree as I’ve seen in America. Also this preschool thing. Is it that there aren’t enough in S.F. or why is it such a process? I’m not sure I’ll ever really understand that."

Tobi: "In Nigeria everyone just gets on with it. There’s a lot of thinking and overthinking that goes on here, which seems to get parents stressed. Co-sleeping or crying it out? This bed was mine before you came and that ain't changing. Forward or backward facing strollers? If you can support your neck, face front. To Sophie or not to Sophie? Why not? How can you hate on a squeaky French Giraffe?"

Temi: "My mum is just amazing in so many ways. She’s so supportive, kind, generous and strong. After taking some time off when we were young, she set up her own business and has built an incredible company that operates internationally. My brother is such a hands-on Dad. I’ve never seen anything like it! And his wife and two daughters really benefit from it."

Tobi: "Both my parents. They set the bar very high."

Tobi: "In case you didn’t know, she’s an ex-Navy Seal. When Rayo was 5 months old, we went on a trip to Nigeria, which she planned with military precision. It made it easier for both of us, and especially Rayo. For example, she knows Heathrow so well, she booked our layover in the only hotel that you can access without setting foot outdoors, which made travel easier with the temperature differences between S.F., London, and Lagos. Only Temi would think of that, then bother to find it."

Temi wears a J.Crew t-shirt and Avaleigh pants. Rayo wears a Mothercare t-shirt and pants from Etsy. Tobi wears an AllSaints henley and Uniqlo jeans.

Temi: "He’s so much more hands-on than I anticipated, which is such a great support. It often seems faster and easier to do what you know as a mother, but Tobi is really good at coming up with different ways of trying new things with and for Rayo."

Temi: "We didn’t get started on it until I was about 36 weeks pregnant and luckily things took shape fast. We didn’t really have a plan, just figured it out as we went along, kept a few things (like the storage unit instead of a dresser) and bought some new things. We kept things neutral, since we didn’t find out if we were having a boy or a girl. We chose a pale mint for the accent wall to inject a bit of color. The artwork is from a friend of Tobi’s who owns a letter press company in Texas. Then we added a few points of interest like the retro star light I found at Renegade Craft Fair, as well as a few bits and bobs from England and Nigeria. As Rayo grows, we keep tweaking things to suit his needs and collecting things for him when we travel."

Temi: "The table, because Tobi made it. And the light, as I’d never seen anything like it before. One of his friends makes them."

Temi: "He loves the light from Tobi’s friend. He loves playing with the patterns it makes on the wall. He also loves the air plant holders Tobi made on the wall in the pattern of the Virgo constellation."

Temi: "Find what you love. In the early days we made a few temporary purchases, which sometimes end up sticking around a lot longer than you’d like! I’m a lot more patient with the process than I used to be."

Tobi: "Decorating?"

Temi: "Our living room. It’s very bright and has an open plan, so it’s the room we spend the most time in. Tobi built us these fantastic tables that sit next to each other as desks, but then we can unlock the wheels and configure it how we want for entertaining. They’re a lovely dark solid walnut, which you don’t see too much either."

Temi: "Lived-in, unfussy, with great natural light. It’s always changing with our style and needs. Moving the furniture round is a favorite pastime of mine and we’re always adding finds from our travels, photos, and art."

Tobi: "Simple and comfortable, with pieces collected from our travels and a few custom pieces I made."

Temi: "It’s a small walkable city, the weather is moderate year round, and it feels like there’s a lot to do with kids. But hands-down the best thing about raising Rayo here is my amazing crew of mums!"

A sleek sunglasses holder Tobi designed for Bushakan.

Temi: "For play spaces, we love Recess, as it’s so near and Rayo absolutely loves it. We spent quality time at Gymboree when Rayo was younger. Aldea Ninos is a great shop for anything child related and the staff is fantastic. The Exploratorium, Bay Discovery Museum, Academy of Sciences, and the carousel and playground by Yerba Buena are fun outings. Precita Park, Dolores Park, McKinley Square, and Mission Playground are our favorite playgrounds. For an easy morning adventure, Muir Woods, Mount Tam, Filoli Gardens, or the Glen Park canyon. I feel most restaurants here are baby-friendly enough and we really enjoy checking out new places, but our favorites are Flour + Water, Bar Tartine, Hapa Ramen, 4505 Meats, Zuni, Park Tavern, the newly opened Al’s Place. Foreign Cinema, Central Kitchen, and Plow for weekend brunch."

Temi: "Absolutely. I love S.F. and it’s perfect for us all right now, but I like the idea of London when Rayo is ready for middle/high school."

Tobi: Lagos, London, or Tokyo."

Temi: "Seven years. It’s a small flat, but it’s ours and it’s always evolving."

A treasure from travels abroad.

Temi: "I set up my own PR company, Pembroke PR, just before Rayo was born. I was 8 months pregnant when I left my job looking after communications for a great restaurant group, but it felt like a good move in terms of opportunity and timing. Fortunately, it’s been my best career move yet."

Tobi: "I’m trained as an architect and I utilize those skills as the lead environmental designer at John McNeil Studio. I design work environments for our clients to ensure it’s reflective of both their brand and company culture. I also teach an Interior Architecture Studio focused on sustainability at the Academy of Art University."

Rayo stands on a desk—which can transform into a long dining room table—built by Tobi.

Temi: "Like most mums I know, it’s an ongoing process trying to figure that one out. Balance is an elusive ideal, so I just do the best I can to enjoy the flexibility of working for myself and be present with Rayo when I’m with him. Rayo goes to bed relatively early (6:30), so that provides me a window of time to catch up on work before Tobi gets home."

Tobi: "I wake up early, so I can spend time with Rayo before work."

Simple accents.

Because...baby toes.

Temi: "I’m more driven and focused with work. I’m lucky I love what I do, but I also made a clear choice to be on this path. I enjoy brainstorming with clients, my many meetings, press pitches, and keeping my finger on the pulse of social media. One of the most important things I’ve learned with clients is we have to enjoy each other’s company and I need to love their product. That’s when you get the best results and the mix of great clients and great results makes my job truly enjoyable."

Temi wears an American Apparel tank and a skirt made in Nigeria. Rayo wears a Mothercare t-shirt and PACT pants.

Temi: "Every client win, every successful pitch, every successful social media strategy is a proud moment. But starting my own company and getting a steady stream of work in a competitive environment is one of my proudest moments."

Tobi: "An installation I made with a friend a few years ago."

Temi: "#GirlBoss."

Tobi: "The people that I work with. It’s a diverse range of people with different skill sets."

And he's off...