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Spencer and Kelly’s Pregnancy and Fatherhood Journey: Life As Dads

Written by Erin Feher

Photography by Peter Darnley-Stuart

Today is bittersweet—it’s our final installment of Spencer and Kelly’s journey through pregnancy and early fatherhood, but at the same time, it’s just the very beginning of a brand-new story for them. They are settling into life as dads to precious little Alexis, and getting to know more about their sweet son with every day that passes (likes include looking at plants, listening to the vacuum, and cuddling with his dads).

This week, the couple invites us back into their home, which is now filled with the coos and cries of baby Lexi. Spencer shares with us his unique postpartum experience—his words about his changed body are honest and kind, and will be relatable to anyone who has birthed a child and struggled to regain focus on their altered shape afterwards. The couple also reflects on their individual upbringings, and how they have shaped the “parental legacy” they hope to leave their son. And we tag along with the new family and their friends to the local market, and to an all-inclusive daytime party called Kooky, where Lexi gets to dance with his dads and meet dozens of queer friends and chosen family who have loved him and supported his dads from the start.

We want to share our sincerest thanks to Spencer and Kelly for agreeing to open up their lives and their highly personal journey to us. And also to all of you who have shared your support and words of encouragement with the couple along the way—for those who live with a constant, underlying fear of hate and judgement, kind and loving words make a huge impact. At MOTHER, we are actively working towards sharing a broader range of parenting experiences, and even to expand and rethink the very definition of the term “mother.” As Spencer said, “By featuring stories like ours, we knit similarities between seemingly unrelated experiences. What we’re left with is a dazzling tapestry showing all the marvelous ways we humans can experience the magic of parenthood.” We welcome your suggestions and recommendations for stories and topics that could help us continue to do just that.

This is part five in a five-part series—if you haven’t already, we invite you to click over to Part One and read their story from the beginning. We also encourage you to share this story with someone you know who may benefit from seeing and truly understanding a different perspective on gender, parenthood, and identity.

Read Part One: The First Trimester, here.

Read Part Two: The Second Trimester, here.

Read Part Three: The Third Trimester, here.

Read Part Four: The Birth! here.

Click through the slideshow below to read Part Five: Life As Dads

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  1. Lisa says...

    Congratulations to your family! Thank you so much for sharing your story with us, you are great!
    Much love from Germany to Australia!

  2. Bridgett J Holman says...

    Very,very beautiful story!

  3. Hannah says...

    Cheers to you and thank you for sharing your story!!

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